We can define self-esteem as a reflection of a person’s overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the self or simply the confidence in one’s own worth or abilities and self-respect.
Some people ask, “Why do I have a low self-esteem?”
There are many possible answers that one can give, even though there is only one valid and honest answer:
Thinking of yourself in a consistently negative way is the
only way to have a low self-image. Improving your thoughts improves your
The way you think of yourself now is your present self- esteem. Regardless of your past self-image, you have free will and the ability to build yourself and your self-esteem.
Stop Thinking Thoughts That Lower Your Self-Esteem
A person creates a low self-image with their thoughts. Someone who constantly repeats ‘demeaning self-talk’ will build a low view of their self-worth. The more you continue thinking and focusing on negative thoughts that lower your self-worth, the worse you will feel about yourself.
Being around extremely critical people can be very distressful. Such people vibrate with negative energy and tend to be pessimists. They always see negative or end of the world out of every situation. But also having a very active inner critic often criticizing what you say and do without a single breather creates even more distress.
However, when you consistently think thoughts to build your self- esteem, those positive statements become stronger and stronger and the old negative ones get weaker and weaker. The neural pathways to the recent life-enhancing thoughts are enlarged and your mind will find it easier to travel this much beneficial path.
Keep in mind that every young child has immature ways of thinking, speaking, and acting. As people grow up the clear majority think, speak and act in more adult ways. Even though the childish ways of thinking, speaking, and acting are stored in the brains of adults, the more mature behaviors become automatic and spontaneous.
Ask yourself; Whom Do I Want to Be?
What kind of person do you really want to be?
Writing this in form of a mission statement or essay has a
powerful effect on one’s self-esteem. The act of writing that you want to be “kind” and “compassionate” motivates positive action.
The question “What kind of person I am?” is answered by the way you speak to others and what you do for them.
You Are Unique
You are unique. Yes, you read it right. You’re Unique. One of the major causes of low self-esteem is, over comparing oneself to others. Thinking that you don’t measure up or you’ll never be like so and so. Today, we live in a bubble of fame worship. A huge number of people spend their lives comparing themselves or trying to be like celebrity so and so. The truth is, You are the only person in the world who is exactly who you are. The Almighty creator has not made anyone else like you. Only you have your unique genetic makeup and your unique life circumstances. No one alive now, and no one who ever lived before, and no one who will ever live in the future was, is, or will be just like you. You are the only person in the world with your unique positive qualities and challenges. You are the only person in the world who has your particular life mission.
Psalm 139:13–16 (ESV)
“For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them. “
You, like everyone else alive right now, are a work in progress. You have a multitude of positive choices you can make throughout each and every day. Choose life! Choose positive thoughts, words, and actions. With every positive choice you make, you build yourself. Keep making positive choices.
You Are Important
Considering yourself important is an essential mindset. Feeling good about yourself is a basic human need. Knowing your inner strengths and positive qualities enables you to use them again and again. Acknowledging your past accomplishments and achievements gives you a happier life and enables you to continue to accomplish and achieve much more.
Your self-esteem creates the quality of your life.
As you build your “self”, you will have a greater positive influence on the self-outlook of others. No wonder the creator says, “Love your neighbor (others) the same way you love ‘yourself’. The way you view yourself is the same way you’ll always view or treat others. If you view yourself as a failure or a no body, guess what! You’re going to seek out and see those around you as failures. As the saying goes, ‘Birds of the same feathers flock together’.
It takes an entire lifetime to live one’s life. Building your self-esteem is a lifelong process. Throughout your life there will be factors and events that build your self-esteem, while other experiences do the opposite. The positive and elevated thoughts, words, and actions that you think, say, and do are all part of the process of building your self-esteem.
You are Loved
God loves each person more than each person loves their own self.
For I know the plans that I am planning concerning you,’ declares Yahweh, ‘plans for prosperity and not for harm, to give to you a future and a hope. -Jeremiah 29:11 (LEB)
Knowing this gives us a powerful message for our self-image:
“I am a person who the Creator and Sustainer of the entire universe loves and considers valuable.”Tweet
For He has a plan for my life. It’s a great and a better plan.
Building Your Self-Esteem One Step at a Time
It is important to improve yourself one step at a time every day than to have quick progress. It’s a journey not a sprint.
The daily question to ask yourself is: “What small improvement can I make now?”
Every time you get to know yourself better in any way, you build up your self-esteem.
“I am a person who is gaining more and more control over my emotions and actions all the time.”
Every time you have the emotional self-control to do something that you find difficult to do, you build up your self-esteem. Every time you refrain from saying or doing something, you build up your self-esteem. Get to know yourself and who you are. Do something out of the ordinary something you were afraid of doing before.
Some people keep a journal. Write down your successes and victories in exhibiting self-esteem. Get to know your strength and positives and focus on them. Don’t be afraid to try. Fear has no power over you.
“For God has not given us a spirit of cowardice, but of power and love and self-discipline.” — 2 Timothy 1:7